Are You A Good Best Friend?

Do you know what a best friend consists of?

Many people think they know the true answer to that question. Only a true best friend knows that. People think that being a best friend is just hanging with them and being there for them when they need them, when in reality it’s much more than that.

Giniya Fritz,
Advice Columnist

Yes, friends come and go but to keep them around you have to be kind and caring, loyal, generous, funny, honest, trustworthy, smart, friendly, forgiving, and fun. Being able to be trustworthy may sound like an easy task but for most isn’t so easy. If you know you’re not a trustworthy person there are ways to change that.

                       How can you build trust?

• ·      Do what you say.
• ·      Never lie
• ·      Volunteer information
• ·      Don’t omit important details
• ·      If you have secrets, let it be known
• ·      Don’t mask the truth
• ·      Keep secrets to yourself
• ·      If you lie, admit to it
• ·      Speak your feelings
• ·      Honor your promises

Does everyone deserve a second chance? Second chances may be hard at first but in order to do that you have to establish your criteria. I believe everyone can make a stupid decision and/or choice and then realize just how stupid it was. If the person has enough remorse and shows through action just how much they are willing to work to repair the damage, then yes, they would deserve a second chance. The issue might be that once the trust is broken, even if you work on the second chance, it could prove to be too much for the other person to work through.

Many people think they know what’s the different between a friend and an associate. Friends are people who you can hang out with, have fun, but also count on to be there for you when you need them. Associates are people who you associate with, meaning that you are friendly with them with the intention of either hanging out or helping in a professional way, but when it comes down to it they are not true friends. It is good to have both friends and associates. It is even more important to know which is which.

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